By Eve on Jun 17, 2007 in About Me, Relationships
This is kind of a sore spot for me. My dad, well, I don’t even know what to say, he is great, was great, is going through a tough time I guess. Pretty much since I was about 19 or so my dad stopped being accessible, he would reply to emails randomly, only if they were very important, heck, he even surprised us all by showing up to my Wedding 6 months ago; but has not been in contact since. When he does contact me or my sister, he says it is because he is bad at keeping in touch…… ok, well, this has been going on for years. I feel horrible about it mainly because my baby sister (not a baby anymore!) did nothing to deserve this, she even had major back surgery a few years ago and he never even called. I know he knew, I had tracked down his home address and actually driven down to his home in Louisiana from mine in Florida on a whim one night, I drove all night.
When I showed up at his home unannounced and without having heard from him in over a year, he said “Hey, how have you been?” as if nothing had been going on. I stayed for a week, never bringing up the fact that he hurt me by not calling me or my sister, we just acted like nothing ever happened. Looking back, I should have confronted him, but I didn’t. Then 6 months ago I emailed him several times about the wedding, telling him to come walk me down the aisle, He replied saying he would be there, I didn’t know for sure if he would show or not until the day of the wedding. We even practiced both scenarios at the rehearsal, one for if he showed, one if he didn’t. But the morning of my wedding day he showed up, it was fantastic! He spent the day with me, met Joseph for the first time, walked me down the aisle, then even stayed the night at our house that night. He left the next day and I have heard from him once since then. He never even sent us the pictures he took.
Ok, well, I know that is a very negative post so far, but really, it isn’t. I know most people, especially my mom, can not even begin to understand this, but I still love my dad, and I am certain my little sister does too. I don’t need a reason as to why he has not called, if her were to pick up the phone tomorrow and call, I would need no explanation, I would love that, you know. He is my father no matter what. So he moral of this story is… I guess, Happy Fathers Day. 
Aww, I’m sorry your dad is not more available to you, Eve.
I’m sorry you don’t have a better relationship with your dad, Eve. You’re a very good person for not needing an explanation for the disappearances!
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Aw, I’m sorry there is so much pain in that relationship, but happy for you that you can keep it in perspective. I hope you can get an explanation some day that might lead to healing and closer ties with your dad.
I hope that one day you and your father get a chance to understand each other.
That is sad but it is his problem. I’m glad you have your hubby. Maybe some day your dad will see his errors and change.
Thanks everyone! It is sad, but hopefully he his doing ok and will get over whatever is going on soon!
I always think it is interesting when Dad’s behave that way. Mine has always been accessible and did a good job to keeping in touch – but sometimes it felt like it was just on the surface. I don’t understand why Dad’s do that either.